Contributions of the Muslim Woman by giving Sincere Advice
Small excerpt from the book:
“They are your cover, and you are their cover.” [Sūrah al-Baqarah 2:187]
Ibn Kathīr commented,
“In short, the wife and the husband are intimate and have sexual intercourse with each other.”
If that is so, there is no doubt that the wife knows her husband more than anybody else. She knows his true character, traits, morals, worship, commitment to obedience, and she can advise him whenever she notices negligence in his religious commitment or his integrity. This makes her a huge support for him in worshipping Allāh and getting closer to Him, and the only way to achieve this is by offering her advice since people with closer relations are more entitled to the advice than those with far relations; and who is closer to the husband than his wife?!
ʿĀishah (may Allāh be pleased with her) used to teach women and instruct them to advise their husbands. Muʿādhah narrated that ʿĀishah said:
“Tell your husbands to clean themselves with water, for I am too shy to tell them myself. The Messenger of Allāh (Sallallahu ‘Alayhi wa Sallam) used to do that.”
Al-ʿAllāmah Muḥammad al-Mukhṭār al-Shinqītī (d.1405 A.H.) remarked,
“This Ḥadīth proves that the wife is permitted to instruct her husband to do or not to do if she knows a religious matter he is ignorant of as well as offers her advice to him at whatever she considers best for him.”
The wife’s advice to her husband will positively lead to more affability and intimacy between them. It also proves her love, care, and desire for him to be all good whether this advice is related to something religious or worldly since they are all a part of advice.